Why Muzzling Your Dog is a Good Thing!

 Last week, I taught two clients to muzzle train their dogs.  They had both been very hesitant to do so given the "bad rap" any dog wearing a muzzle seems to get when out in public spaces.  It appears that people who muzzle their dogs are being judged (unfairly!) by other dog owners.  Given all of this, I figured it was time to talk about muzzles and why they are a training tool that every dog should be familiar with and willingly accept.

Let's review some of the reasons why you might want to train your dog to wear a muzzle.  First and foremost, does your dog go to the veterinarian's office? I'm sure she does.  On occasion, she may go to the vet's office and need to have something done that will be painful.  A dog who has been trained to wear a muzzle will not pose a risk to the veterinarian and their staff trying to help the dog with whatever is causing the pain.  And if it's that the procedure being done is pain-inducing, then muzzling your dog means that the procedure can be done quicker and is thus less stressful for all parties involved.  

Second, if you have a dog who literally eats everything they find when out in your yard, on walks, etc., then muzzle training is for you.  Ingesting foreign objects isn't just gross or a nuisance, it can be potentially deadly.  It's one thing if your dog eats leaves or grass, and it's another issue entirely if your dog eats oleander, rocks, and trash.  Or maybe your dog swallows socks, underwear, or highlighter pens (I've had clients with dogs who've eaten all of those things!).  Wearing a muzzle means your dog can still sniff and explore, but they can't eat anything they shouldn't.

Third, some dogs play too rough.  Wearing a muzzle during play means a dog who enjoys running around and engaging other dogs can't get themselves into a scuffle by playing too hard. It's also an easy way to introduce unfamiliar dogs if you are unsure of how the interaction might proceed. 

Fourth, maybe you have a super-cute little dog that people constantly swarm when you are out.  Kids want to pick him up because he looks like a little stuffed toy.  The problem is, he's not a toy and he is frightened of new people, children, being picked up, etc. Muzzling your dog means you will worry less; when people see a dog wearing a muzzle, they slow down their approach and may even avoid interacting altogether, thus giving your dog the space he needs to feel safe and unmolested.

Basically, what I'm saying is this: EVERY DOG SHOULD BE TAUGHT TO WEAR A MUZZLE.  Having said that, not all muzzles are created equal.  You will want to train your dog to wear a basket style muzzle that is lightweight and easy for you to clean.  I like the vinyl basket muzzles like the ones in the pictures below. These muzzles, when fitted properly, don't slip around on your dog's face and allow him to pant, bark, growl, drink water, and take treats. A well-fitted muzzle will not ride up on a dog's eyes or rub the end of their nose and will be wide enough to allow for open mouth panting and not be so loose as to be easily rubbed or slipped off.  Even short snouted dogs can be taught to wear a muzzle!

Here's the way that I teach my clients to muzzle train their dogs: It should only takes a few days to a week to acclimate a dog to wearing a muzzle, and some dogs get it really quick!  Your first step is to put peanut butter or cream cheese all over the inside of the muzzle and let your dog lick it out with you holding the muzzle like you would a bowl of ice cream or a yogurt container.  Once she will readily do this, you will "bait" the muzzle again, and turn the muzzle on its side so that she has to stick her nose into it to lick it clean.  Once she is doing this readily, you "bait" the muzzle and attach it to her.  Watch her until she is done cleaning it out and then remove it.  At this point, you are ready to lightly "bait" the muzzle, put it on her, and then feed her yummy snacks while wearing it.  And voila! Your dog is muzzle trained!  

Many dogs taught to wear a muzzle come to see it as just another training tool like a head halter, harness, or even the leash. When done correctly, there will be few if any hurt feelings with wearing one; in fact, a lot of anxious/fractious dogs treat their muzzles like on/off switches.  When wearing their muzzles they are "off duty," and when the muzzle comes off, they are "switched back on."  This makes their behavior more predictable and controllable for you, their devoted owner.

There are places in the world where dogs out in public areas are required to be muzzled.  Muzzles make it safer for lots of unfamiliar dogs and people to be together in smaller spaces.  I think we all just need to change the way we view muzzles, the dogs who wear them, and the owners of those dogs who are doing their very best to insure that their dog, your dog, your kids, the veterinarian, and you are all as safe as possible.  Dog owners who muzzle train their dogs are being responsible.  They aren't bad dog owners and their dogs aren't menaces.  Let's all educate ourselves about muzzles and show some compassion and empathy for each other.  

As always, if you have questions about your dog's behavior, you know where to find me.

Durable vinyl muzzles on a short snouted dog and a medium snouted dog, for reference.

If Your Dog Loves to Swim, This Blog's for You!

 A few years ago, I had a client whose neighbor lost their dog to water toxicity.  While not super common, it does happen and just this week, I had another client reach out to tell me that her sister's dog nearly died from water toxicity following a day at the beach.  Given the unseasonably warm weather we've been having, and the number of clients headed to the beach or uncovering their swimming pools, it seemed like a good time to revisit this topic.

Acute water intoxication is somewhat rare but most commonly seen in dogs that love to play in water. It can actually occur anytime an animal ingests a large quantity of water quickly. High risk dogs are those that engage in water play, including those who like to bite at sprinklers or play with the garden hose. Dogs who love to retrieve round toys in water, or compete with other dogs to get those water toys are also at risk of ingesting large quantities of water as their mouths are open when retrieving.

So, what are the symptoms of water intoxication?  They are: loss of coordination, lethargy, bloating, vomiting, glazed eyes, excessive salivation, difficulty breathing, seizures, and coma.

Once a dog begins showing symptoms of water intoxication, it is critical to get them veterinary care immediately if they are to recover. When a dog ingests too much water, this results in a condition called "hyponatremia," which is excessively low sodium levels in the blood. Too much water causes unbalanced electrolytes and dilutes the sodium storage in the fluid around the cells. Cells fill with water which causes swelling that affects the nervous system since sodium helps maintain blood pressure and is important to nerve and muscle function. It is also the case that dogs who play in salt water for extended periods of time may ingest too much salt water leading to hypernatremia.

If you have a water-loving dog, or one who will retrieve a toy tossed in the water over and over, you need to monitor their water activity and insist on breaks.  Even if they just love playing in the sprinklers or biting a garden hose, watch them for taking on too much water. Even a dog who quickly empties a water bowl following brisk play or exercise is a risk for water intoxication.  Wait to refill that bowl until the dog has cooled down and the water they drank has been properly absorbed.

Prevention is obviously the best course of action with this issue. If your water loving dog does however, show any of the above symptoms, get them to the vet quickly. 

As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.

Ozzie loves to go to the beach, but he's not at all drawn to the water.  He likes to trot along on the sand, chasing birds.  Incoming waves cause him to scramble away to stay dry!

When to Take Things at Face Value

 I have been working with a client on and off for several months. She had initially indicated that she'd found me through a "trusted friend."  We've done phone consultations and Zoom consultations, but had yet to meet in person, first because of COVID concerns and then because of budget concerns.  At least, that's what I was told.  You see, that's what the client had told me and I took those statements at face value.  Then, I received a call from her veterinarian and everything changed.  You see, she'd never told her vet she was working with me or vice versa.  In fact, when her vet recently recommended me to her during an appointment for help with her cat, she told him she was already working with me.  She also told her vet that I hadn't ever offered to come to her home to see the cat there, nor had my recommendations been "all that helpful." This blindsided me as every one of our conversations had concluded with her thanking me profusely for my help, after telling me what had been working, and then tweaking what wasn't to work for her and the cat.  My notes show all of this, as well as where I asked her if she wanted me to come to her home and see the cat there now that I've been fully vaccinated. She indicated that progress was being made, no need for an in-person meeting.  Well, obviously, something wasn't adding up, leaving both the vet and myself feeling completely duped by this owner and unsure how to help her OR her cat!  While this isn't the first time something like this has happened, I'm always frustrated when it does.  You see, I don't want to be one of those people who doesn't believe what a pet owner is telling me. I want to be able to take what they are saying about their pet at face value, determine where the problem lies, and then help address that problem in a straightforward, humane, and conscientious manner with respect for both the pet and pet owner.  Doing that is difficult, however, if owners are being intentionally (or even unintentionally) deceptive with their communications of what is going on with their pets.  People who are more concerned with saving face, or downplaying questionable behaviors they are seeing, or the circumstances and frequency with which they see those behaviors, are doing themselves and their pets an incredible disservice.

Look, I know it's hard to admit that your pet has a behavior problem.  People can get emotional and defensive as they feel like their "pet parenting skills" are being judged by others.  And some pet owners are just inexperienced or unfamiliar with animal behavior and thus are arriving at erroneous conclusions with regard to their pet's behavior (e.g the whole "I know I need to be an alpha with my dog" nonsense we've talked about before).

After 30 years in business, I've gotten really good at asking the right questions and not making snap judgments. If a client says their dog is reactive, I ask them what that looks like.  If they say their puppy is aggressive, I ask what the puppy is doing.  Words like reactive and aggressive are loaded with meaning that might not even apply to the pet we are discussing, but the owners have heard/read those terms or someone told them that was the problem. Labels like reactive or aggressive can also keep an owner from pursuing help for their pet. I try to listen to not only the words, but the emotion behind them.  Much of what I do is about being a good listener and a good observer of both human and canine behavior.  Over the years, I've had veterinarians tell me that their clients tell me a whole heck of a lot more than they ever learn during their appointments!  I find that disturbing as well given that vets do have to rely on owners' reports of their pet's behavior in order to decide what diagnostic tests to run, for example. Downplaying lethargy, vomiting, loose stools, etc. could lead a veterinarian to assume a pet isn't in too much distress, when really they are, but their owner is unable to convey that because they are scared, in denial, or afraid of being charged for unnecessary services. 

We all filter the things people tell us, but when it comes to people's pets, those filters are layered with love, guilt, fear, and even anger.  Being kind in the way I ask questions, getting clarification, and asking for examples has always been my strong suit. I know that my clients don't process or prioritize information the same way that I do, and that's okay. It's my job to get at the heart of the matter and help them to help their pets. It's one of the reasons during this pandemic that I've solicited so much video from my clients. I've reviewed hours of video footage of clients' dogs displaying everything from separation anxiety to panic to aggression to fear. Those videos are invaluable as I can look at them and then the client and I can talk about the behavior in the video, rather than their interpretation of what they saw when they took the video. Their interpretation is often laced with emotion. My evaluation of the video is not.  I am compassionate and caring, but I try very hard to be specific in the words and phrases I use so that clients can truly understand what the problem is and how we are going to fix it.

I don't think my clients are trying to be intentionally deceptive, but if they are reporting different things to their veterinarian than they are to me, or vice versa, it makes it incredibly difficult to determine what should be done to help the pet. Behavior problems can be very scary, I get that.  But we can't even begin to figure out what can be done if you can't be honest with me and with yourself about what you are seeing.  I treat what you tell me as privileged information, only sharing with your referring veterinarian if you want me to OR if your veterinarian is needed for diagnostic tests and/or drug therapy. Your secrets are safe with me and being honest will help me help you.  And if you don't know what you are seeing, just describe it as best as you can and I'll try to ferret out what's going on. Or send video and we can watch it together, learning about your pet and their needs together.

As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me. 

My office assistant is very good at not judging what he sees or hears during my phone and video consultations with clients.  He does, however, fall asleep on the job.

Why Can't I Get My Dog to Stop (fill in the blank)?!

As you've likely figured out, I receive a lot of questions from frustrated pet owners.  Many of those questions begin, with "Why can't I get my dog to stop...." The focus is on getting the dog to stop doing something.  I like to turn this around and ask "What is it that you want your dog TO DO instead?"  You see, it's all well and good to want to extinguish an annoying behavior, but you need to have a plan as to what you want to replace that annoying behavior with instead.  Here's an example.

My client yesterday was so frustrated that her dog was still surfing her kitchen counters.  She tells him "Off!" when she's there and she tries to keep the counters clear, but in her family, that's a challenge in and of itself.  He's gotten pretty good at staying off the counters when she's standing right there, but when she leaves the room, all bets are off! Frankly, this dog keeps counter surfing because the behavior works for him.  When he gets up there, he almost always finds something to eat or play with.  He finds crumbs, empty food containers, half eaten meals, dish towels, and sponges. His favorite kitchen chewing items seems to be the large wooden spoons near her stove. I know we've talked about this before, but it bears repeating. Dogs will continue to do things that work for them unless you show them that the behavior doesn't work anymore AND that you know something better that they can do. This isn't about punishing the dog into compliance, it's about showing him better alternatives. 

When my client is working in her kitchen, she will now not just tell her dog "Off!" when he comes up on the counter. Instead, she will direct him away from the counter and to his mat where she can give him a treat and tell him to "Stay!"  If he stays on his mat, she will periodically go back and reinforce that stay with a small, desirable treat (not something she is cooking, but something just for him). If he gets up from his mat, he will be sent back one time, and if he leaves it again, he'll be removed from the kitchen for the remainder of the food prep time.  Thus, the dog learns that NOT surfing AND staying on his mat, means he gets tangible rewards.  If he surfs and breaks his stay, he's removed to a place where he can no longer be part of the action. For now, all counters will be absent of anything he can take.  We want him to get up there and see that when there aren't people in the kitchen, there are no chances for rewards at all.  Anytime someone enters the kitchen and finds the dog NOT on the counter (and bonus points for being on his mat), he will get a reward.  It will also help this plan to succeed if we can train her husband to stop feeding the dog what he is preparing at the counter, but we all know how much harder the humans are to train than dogs!

Basically, when you ask yourself that question as to why you can't get your dog to stop doing something, you really need to decide what it is you want them to be doing instead, and find a way to show them that the alternative is more rewarding than their original behavior.  This applies to barking, digging, destructive chewing, etc.  Digging dogs need an appropriate outlet for their digging and hard core chewers need to have a variety of items to chew on being made available daily, and rotated to remain interesting.  And barking dogs? It's fine to tell them quiet, but then what should they do with their energy that they were expending on barking? How about redirecting them to a toy or game instead.  Or bring them indoors (if they were barking outside) and get them focused on a quiet activity. 

I know this is frustrating, however, we all have to remember that our dogs would have stopped doing many of these annoying behaviors before if WE hadn't made doing so quite as rewarding for them in the first place!

As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.

If you want your dog to stop begging at the table, then stop making being at the table while you are eating so rewarding for your dog!  Don't pet them, don't give them treats, and show them where they should be while you are eating.  Definitely give them something rewarding in their place away from the table. If they come back to beg, remove them from the room until the meal is over.  Your dog will learn that not begging and staying in their place means they get to stay and watch what's going on, AND receive a reward for doing so. 

Do You Know Someone with Cynophobia?

Over the weekend, I got a private message from a woman who follows my collie, Desi, on his Facebook page.  Well, actually, Desi got the note, I just answer all of his messages for him!  Anyway, she indicated that she'd seen his posts about helping a little girl overcome her fear of dogs.  She wanted to know how we'd done it and if what we'd done would work with an adult. You see, she'd been bitten as a child and was profoundly afraid of dogs in real life.  She loved looking at dogs on Facebook (hence her being one of Desi's "top fans"), but she still was terrified of any dog she encountered out in public.  And her fear was really isolating her more and more.  The pandemic meant more people working from home and walking their dogs at all times of day which meant this woman rarely felt safe walking, even in her neighborhood, anymore. 

Cynophobia, the clinical name for fear of dogs, affects 7-9% of the general population.  While that might not seem like much, that's roughly 30 million people whose quality of life is affected by their fear of dogs. What that fear looks like can vary from person to person.  Some people with cynophobia can't even look at pictures of dogs or watch a TV show, movie, or even a commercial where dogs are present.  Others can look at pictures of dogs and watch quiet dogs on TV, but if the dog barks or growls all bets are off.  And some are fine with dogs in all forms until they see them out in public spaces.  This is a difficult situation since dogs are the most popular pet here in the United States and dogs are allowed to go with their humans to so many public places.  For the woman who reached out to Desi, she couldn't even watch her kids' soccer games at the park on weekends because some of the parents brought their dogs along to cheer the kids on. Really a heartbreaking situation for her and for her family.

While it is fairly common for a person whose been bitten or chased by a dog to fear them, not every instance of cynophobia is due to a bad experience with a dog in the past. It is often true that phobias like fearing dogs are passed on from one person to another in a family.  Perhaps your mother was chased by a dog as a child and now she projects her fear onto you about taking an abundance of caution around all dogs. This is often why children are afraid of dogs. It is also definitely the case that people with more sensitive temperaments are prone to specific fears such as cynophobia. For some adults, just reading about a serious dog bite incident is enough to trigger a fear of all dogs. 

As with any panic-related episode, people experiencing cynophobia can have an increased heart rate, tightening in their chest, profuse sweating, trembling, feeling dizzy, and trouble breathing. They often feel an intense need to run away or escape; often they report feeling completely helpless and like they were going to die.  Children experiencing cynophobia will often scream, cry, run, or cling to a caregiver, all of which can attract undue attention from the dog that triggered the panic to begin with.

I should point out at this juncture that I am not a trained, human psychologist or psychiatrist. What I am is someone with an undergraduate degree in Psychology and a Master's Degree in Animal Behavior.  As such, I have studied fears and phobias in both humans and animals.  I have worked both alone and in conjunction with medical professionals to help treat cynophobia using my trained therapy dogs to desensitize people who are seeking treatment.  My first collie, Cooper, was a natural at this work.  He helped a half dozen children overcome their fear of dogs with repeated exposures to his calming presence and desensitization to his movements, sounds, etc. Desi is also incredibly suited to this job.  He will stand completely still for an inordinate amount of time for someone to get used to his presence.  When they are able to approach him, he will lay down, facing away from them, and not  move at all.  I truly mean that. He doesn't move at all.  He doesn't pant and he doesn't move to get up.  He just lays there.   When they can touch him, he will allow all handling thus giving that person a chance to feel his heart beat, touch his tail, feet, etc.  I encourage them to do all of those things with him as I think understanding a dog's physical nature helps to demystify the dog.  Over time, we work up to me walking Desi near them and eventually the folks we've worked with get to the point where they want to walk him themselves.  Desi will walk with anyone; he'll walk at a distance from you on a 15 foot leash, or closer to you on a 4-6 foot leash, whatever makes the person most comfortable. He doesn't run, he doesn't bark, and he doesn't fuss about anything he sees.  Squirrels will run past him and he barely glances when he's working.  This brings peace of mind to the person he is helping to overcome their fear.  When they get to the point where they can give him treats, he takes them gently.  And if they get to the point where they can love on him, he is thrilled, but nonetheless calm.  Once Desi and I have helped someone get to the point where they trust him, we talk about how to read dog body language so that they can traverse the world where other dogs are present, confident in their abilities to understand what those dogs are communicating.  I always tell them that they don't have to love every dog they meet, nor do they have to approach them or submit to being approached.  What they have to do is be comfortable reading dog body language so that when and if a dog approaches them, they will know what their own body language is telling that dog.  We talk about how to appear less threatening to a dog and how not to appear afraid either.  We talk about what your hands should be doing, where you should look, etc.  When they are ready for this step, Desi and I walk with them in dog populated public places.  I always tell them that Desi is there to keep an eye on the other dogs for them.  You see, that's Desi's super-power.  If a dog approaches one of the people he's working with, he will calmly stand between his person and that dog, essentially body blocking the encounter.  His charge feels safe and often the other dog moves away.  This helps the person we are working with learn to trust dogs and trust themselves to read the situations they find themselves in.  We also talk about how to speak to dog owners about their dogs, including telling owners who've let dogs off leash in on leash areas to please leash their dogs!  And how to say no, I don't want to pet your dog, nor do I want to be approached.  Dog owners really do need to be better about controlling their dogs out in public. It simply isn't okay to let your dog (friendly or not!) just run up to someone who is trying to walk, read their book, have a picnic, watch a soccer game, etc. It isn't okay to let your dog jump on people who are just out using the same public space that you are.  While a lot of people love dogs and welcome such approaches, there are enough who don't to make such encounters incredibly risky all around.

So, my response to the woman who contacted Desi was that he and I would be happy to help her overcome her fear of dogs.  Wanting to overcome it is the first step in treatment.  The second is determining how severe her particular case is, and we'll go from there.  Desi is ready, I know.  He loves these one-on-one appointments.  I know he enjoys them because he prances back inside the house afterward and straight at Ozzie almost as if to say, "I did a good thing today! You should have seen me in action!"  Ozzie may not appreciate Desi's gifts, but I sure do.  A dog that can help people overcome their fears is a dog I am proud to call my companion.

As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.

Desi patiently waiting in my office for me to tell him it's time to go to work!

Why Does This Keep Happening?

 That was the question my very desperate and distraught client posed to me in our most recent conversation.  You see, she has an adolescent dog who bites.  Not playful bites, but real bites, drawing blood, putting pressure into the bite, and holding on. The worst part? He's been doing this since he was a puppy. She'd been told that she spoiled the dog and that's why this happened (not true, otherwise most of my clients dogs would be biters, as would my own two spoiled dogs!).  She'd been told that he needed obedience training and not going to classes was the reason for his behavior (also not true since biting people isn't an obedience problem, it's a serious behavior problem and not something that can be dealt with in a classroom situation).  From our first conversation months ago until now, this dog has continued to bite.  His biting frequency has improved as his owners have gotten better at reading the early warning signs and not putting themselves (or the dog) in a position where a bite will occur.  The big problem with this dog, however, is that he has multiple triggers.  Lack of sleep makes him aggressive, as does trying to move him, walk past him, step over him, or move around him.  All bets are off if he has food, a toy, or a sock.  While he's better in the morning, as the day wears on, he becomes worse until everyone in the house avoids him in order to keep from getting bit.  You may be asking yourself why in the world would someone keep a dog like this, but believe it or not, I know a lot of dog owners who are living with dogs who are very much like this one.  Let's dive into this a little deeper.

Any dog who bites has a better than 90% chance of biting again.  I've been helping pet owners for almost 30 years at this point, and I can attest to the validity of this statistic.  Every dog bites again IF you don't change YOUR behavior.  Read that sentence again.  You aren't changing their behavior, you're changing your own.  You see, aggression isn't a curable problem per se, it's more about learning what triggers the aggression and anxiety and controlling those triggers to the best of your ability.  So, if your dog is triggered by children and tries to bite your kids (or does bite your kids), then your dog can't stay in your home unless you plan to re-home your kids, which most parents are unwilling to do! Any dog who bites children has no place in a home where kids live, visit, or stay for any length of time.  And if your dog resource guards the couch, your bed, or the doorway he's blocking, then he can't be allowed on the couch, your bed, or to lay in doorways.  Yes, that means your dog will be restricted as to where he can go and what he can claim as his own.  It's for his own good; you aren't being mean to your dog if don't let him on the furniture.  It's worse to let him up there and then have him bite you when you sit down or try to move him.  I've had clients bit on the face and neck for sitting near their dogs on the couch or climbing back into bed after a trip to the bathroom in the middle of the night. 

I always get asked about where aggression comes from.  I know dog owners feel overwhelming guilt and shame about their biting dogs.  They feel like they are being judged by their family members, friends, and neighbors for keeping their biting dogs.  They are afraid that they did (or didn't) do something that they should have and that's why their dog is aggressive.  I always make a point of telling them it isn't their fault at all.  I've seen severely abused and neglected dogs who NEVER make the choice to bite someone, so abuse isn't where aggression comes from.  I've seen lots of rescued dogs as well and being rescued isn't an excuse for aggressive behavior.  Dogs behave aggressively because the aggressive behavior works for them.  It is a choice to bite.  A dog who doesn't want to move off the couch could simply growl to tell the owner "Hey! I'm not moving!" There's no reason to escalate to a bite. Listen to your growling dogs!  Change your behavior so they don't feel compelled to escalate and make a choice that could be their end. Nothing in life is free. Some dogs need to be reminded of that and need to work for their meals rather than eating in a bowl that they will guard aggressively, for example. 

And here's the part that's really hard for some dog owners to grasp: aggression is heritable.  Dogs whose parents (or grandparents) were aggressive are likely to have issues in aggression as well. It goes without saying that reputable breeders don't perpetuate issues in aggression by breeding dogs they know are aggressive.  When you get a dog through a puppy broker, puppy mill, foreign rescue, etc., however, you won't know anything about your dog's family tree and there's risk involved in not knowing.

While owning any aggressive dog is risky, owning a dog that bites people is the biggest risk.  There is liability involved if you know you own an aggressive dog and your dog bites someone. It doesn't matter if you told the person not to approach your dog; it doesn't matter if you had the dog in another room and someone accidentally let him out; it doesn't matter if the gate was unlocked and the worker came into your yard unannounced.  In all of these cases, you are responsible for your dog's actions and when you get sued, you will be held monetarily accountable.  You can love your dog to the moon and back, but if his behavior means you will lose your house when you get sued over a dog bite, this changes your perspective.

I know that no one, least of all veterinarians, wants to talk about euthanizing a healthy dog.  But the fact of the matter is, dogs who bite people aren't mentally sound.  It isn't normal to make the choice to bite people. In the case of my client's dog above, he literally bites someone weekly, and some weeks, he bites more than one person.  Euthanizing him can be considered a public safety act. My client doesn't want to think about euthanizing her dog, I know that. When I broached the subject with her a few months back, she just couldn't see them doing it.  They wanted to change their own behavior so that they could reduce risk and keep their dog.  The problem is that no amount of changing their behavior has changed the way this dog behaves. He is a risk to his owners, guests in their home, and workers on their property.  This latest bite may get them sued, a risk that I also explained to them months ago. I don't like saying "I told you this could happen," but here we are. I'm frustrated too. They spent a lot of money acquiring this dog and he's not a healthy, happy dog by a long shot.  I really hope that when we talk tomorrow, she makes the right decision and we talk to her vet about guaranteeing this dog never bites anyone again.

I know this has likely been a tough post to read.  For those of you who've lived with, or are living with, aggressive dogs, this probably felt like picking a scab off of a fresh wound.  But, it needed to be said.  You should not be held hostage by your aggressive dog.  Seeking help is good, but accepting that the problem isn't fixable is important too. I can't make your decisions for you, but I truly hope that you will hear what I tell you and understand that I don't enjoy telling you your dog needs to be euthanized. I just want you, your family, and the community to be safe.  I love dogs, but I love their people even more.  I have to try to protect you if I can.  It's part of my job.

As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.

This dog's body language is clear.  She's saying, "don't mess with me."  I'd heed that warning for sure.

Nobody's Perfect

I'm pretty sure I've said this before, but I feel like it bears repeating over and over until we all just relax a bit.  Nobody's perfect.  No dog is perfect. No owner is perfect.  Perfection is an unrealistic, and often detrimental construct that people try to achieve as they compare themselves to their neighbors, family members, friends, co-workers, and influencers they see on social media.  The problem with this is that none of us really knows what goes on behind closed doors/once the cameras stop rolling, etc. Just because your neighbor's dog appears angelic to you when you see them out on walks doesn't mean that dog's owners aren't dealing with separation anxiety, destructive behavior, or even aggression at home.  You likely won't see any of that out on a walk!  And those social media influencers whose dogs are always photographed well-groomed, surrounded by flowers, and with cute music in the background?  That's all staged!  I know a couple of social media influencers (they are my clients too!) who have told me exactly what it takes to get those photos and videos, and I'm here to tell you, it ain't easy!  So, why am I sharing this with you?  I want you to stop being so hard on yourself.  Let's think about what that really means.

First of all, let's set some realistic goals.  If you have a new puppy, I can certainly understand wanting to do "everything right."  But what's right in your home, may not be what's right in your neighbor's house.  And while I will guide you in this regard, you need to tell me how you run your home so that I can make sure that the rules we establish for your new puppy coincide with the way you want the relationship to go. So, for example, I met a new puppy owner last week with 5 small children. Yep.  Five little kids and a new puppy. I admire her strength!  I was tired when I left there!  Her primary goal is to have a puppy who is safe around kids.  Period.  While she'd obviously like the puppy to be well-mannered and housetrained, having the pup be good around her kids is paramount.  I love that she said that and that she made that clear from the get-go.  That means that when we work together, her kids will be present, and I will be watching them interact with their new puppy to insure, to the best of my abilities, that that relationship is a solid one, built on the the kids respecting the dog and vice versa. 

Next, don't beat yourself up if you have a rough day.  Rough week. Or even a rough month. I get that too.  Your dog will understand if you're too tired to do two walks every single day.  Yes, it IS good to plan on doing two walks a day with a healthy, adult dog, but sometimes it just isn't feasible.  Maybe you can toss a toy for  your dog instead, or have him chase a flirt-pole. If you're too tired for that, maybe just give your dog a bone to chew on so he can burn off his extra energy that way.  But don't beat yourself up about those missed walks, late meals, forgotten bones, etc.  It happens.  Dogs are creatures of habit, but they can clearly see when we are having a bad day.  Maybe you should just plunk down next to your dog and pour your heart out to him.  Dogs are great listeners, even if they do appear to fall asleep while we are talking.  They listen better with their eyes closed.  Tomorrow is another day.  You can walk him then.  For now, enjoy his company.  Dogs lives are short and a few missed walks is not a big deal in the grand scope of their lives.

And finally a word of caution.  I had a client tell me a couple of weeks ago that she now felt bad for looking down on her sister-in-law whose dog was always so ill-behaved on family outings.  My client had always had dogs who, in her own words, were easy to train and who fell in line quickly.  That was until she acquired her current dog who is, to put it mildly, hell on wheels (her words exactly). She said she now feels bad for talking "mad trash" about her sister-in-law's dog training abilities because now she sees that it wasn't her sister-in-law, but the dog she had that caused all the problems.  Now my client feels like SHE is being judged by her sister-in-law, and rightly so.  While I try not to involve myself in family drama, I can see her point.  It's time to apologize to her sister-in-law for being so judgy before and start putting in the hard work to get her current dog under better control so that family get-togethers aren't a nightmare of tipped over tables, stolen food, and knocked over guests.  Her new dog is just 9 months old, so we still have time to make changes that will have lasting effects!

Be good to yourselves.  And, as always, if you are having behavior problems with your pets, you know where to find me. 

My "perfect" granddog, Westley.  I'm kidding, he's not perfect and my daughter would be the first one to tell you this if you asked her.  Westley can be quite anxious, particularly with sounds, and he has a sensitive stomach.  If my daughter has a bad day, so does Westley.  He's such an empath that her pain is his pain.  It makes him a very supportive companion, but it also makes him less than perfect and that's okay. He's perfect for my daughter and that's what counts.