Wednesday, October 26, 2022
The Power of Chicken!
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
Coaches, Cheerleaders, and Advocates!
I worked with a couple of different clients this week who told me I was better than any coach they'd ever had. I got such a kick out of this as I've never really thought of myself as a coach, per se. I'm more of a cheerleader, rooting my clients on to make the best of their relationships with their pets. And I'm definitely an animal advocate, educating people on the science behind the behavior, why animals behave the way they do, and how we can improve their lives. But a coach? How cool is that! It got me to thinking about what it takes to be an effective coach, and I realized that the most effective coaches I know provide solid guidance while also being cheerleaders and advocates for their students.
It's true; a lot of what I do is educate pet owners. Yes, I work with their pets directly, and I'm certainly hands on, where appropriate, but most of what I do is teaching people. These two clients loved that I gently guided them and then cheered them on as they gained confidence and made breakthroughs in working with their anxious pets. Here's the thing: I love cheering folks on. I love to see their faces light up when they get reinforced too. Maybe I should start carrying people treats in my pocket as well as those dog treats. You see, people need reinforcement just as much as their pets do. They need to know what they are doing is the right thing; that they are helping their animals become less anxious; that they are providing the best experiences and enrichment activities that will enhance their relationships with their pets.
Sure, there have been times when I've wanted to holler "ACK! You're doing it all wrong!" But that kind of response/reinforcement (punishment is reinforcement, after all, just not the kind any of us enjoy) isn't going to help my clients or their pets, though it might make me feel better in the moment. Pet owners come to me for guidance on serious behavior problems. Most of them have already beaten themselves up pretty bad over what is going on, feeling like they must have done something wrong to end up in this spot. A lot have even had friends and family tell them that they "screwed up." Not helpful, to say the least. No wonder these folks need a coach!
So, I'm going to continue to get excited when my clients use the techniques and tools I've given them. I'm going to continue to cheer them on in their pursuit of harmony in their home. And I'm definitely going to continue to use science and rock solid methodologies in the treatment of behavior problems so I can continue to advocate on behalf of those who have no voice, but rely on us to help them...our pets.
As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.
Wednesday, October 12, 2022
Choosing to Celebrate
Wednesday, October 5, 2022
When Time Isn't On Your Side
I met with a client over the weekend who is feeling quite desperate. She has two dogs, both with fairly significant behavior problems. She's been working with a dog trainer on and off for over 6 months, but she doesn't feel that they are making any headway, beyond basic obedience skills. She's feeling a lot of pressure to do something (maybe even return one of the dogs to the breeder) because she has family coming to stay in both November and December and her dogs aren't going to do well with new people in their home. Her veterinarian suggested working with me as the issues she's having aren't about obedience per se, but about anxiety.
Animals, just like people, experience anxiety. Some animals are more anxious than others, whether due to genetics, experience, or a combination of the two. Anxiety cannot be erased, but it can be managed, if you know what triggers your pet's anxiety and make changes to reduce or remove those triggers. Some of the pets I see have multiple triggers and experience anxiety even when home alone with their owners. For these pets, therapeutic intervention in the form of daily medication is often needed to control serotonin levels in their brains, promoting a more stabilized mood and thus less anxiety overall.
As you may have already guessed, treating anxiety in our pets isn't about short term solutions or quick fixes, but about making those long term changes that will result in a more content and stable animal as a result. Some of those changes may be difficult for the humans involved; some may even be impossible to do. You still need to consider those changes, however, in order to understand what it will take to keep that animal safe and improve their quality of life. Let me give you an example.
If your dog is anxious about meeting new people, hiding behind you perhaps, or maybe even blustering and barking and rearing up when approached by anyone he doesn't know, then it's up to you to control those encounters with new people, even minimizing them so that the fearful/anxious behavior doesn't get continually repeated and thus reinforced. If it's just occurring on walks, you can change when and where you walk, while working on strategies that increase your dog's confidence. If, however, that stranger anxiety occurs in your home when guests visit, then you will obviously have to make some significant changes in order to keep your dog safe and under threshold when you have visitors. If those visitors are coming next month and planning to stay at your house, then you may need to either ask those guests to stay elsewhere, board your dog (if possible), etc. What you don't want to do is "wing it," assuming that you can just put your dog in another room or crate him with the guests there. That might work as a short term solution for guests coming for a 3 hour party, but it most certainly isn't going to work, and will likely create more anxiety for your dog, if you try to do that while guests stay with you for a week.
Anxiety will take longer than a month to get a handle on. And it isn't going to go away just because your veterinarian prescribed Prozac for your dog. Prozac and other medications of that kind are supportive, not curative. Treating anxiety takes work and an understanding that there will be setbacks along the way. You have to remain compassionate (and retain your sense of humor) and be persistent in your pursuit of relief for your anxious dog. I find it helpful to give my clients an action list of things they can do right now, things they can do preemptively to help reduce anxiety in the future, and goals to work toward. That way, they have more realistic expectations for what it will take to help their pet going forward.
I do understand that treating a pet for anxiety isn't easy and that it can be frustrating. I cannot, however, make the process go any quicker for you and your pet. If it is the case that you simply cannot provide the time and care needed to treat your pet's anxiety, that's okay! This doesn't make you a failure, a horrible person, or selfish. It just means you aren't equipped to take on a pet with extra needs. The time to decide that, however, is not the week before you have guests coming to stay with you. Re-homing a pet, particularly one with anxiety, takes time to find a good match, that is one that won't cause your pet added stress and anxiety.
We humans can be so hard on each other, judging each other harshly, whether that's about our own coping abilities and handling of daily stressors, or that of our beloved pets. Until you've lived with, cared for, or yourself had to manage anxiety in a loved one (furred or otherwise), you really need to refrain from offering platitudes and quick fixes. Ask how you can help. That's what I do.
As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.
Wednesday, September 28, 2022
Room to Breathe
I worked with a half dozen clients over the weekend who all had the same complaint; why can't they get other dog owners in their community to understand the concept of personal space? You see they each had a dog who would react negatively when another dog passed by them in close proximity. Each of these dogs was different; for two, their reactivity came from a place of fear, one had previous negative experiences while on leash, one never saw another dog up close so had a lack of socialization, and one was experiencing outright aggression with unknown origin. Nonetheless, each of the owners was experiencing a great deal of frustration any time they took their dog for a walk. One client told me that she was literally afraid to walk her dog in her own neighborhood as more than one neighbor had told her she had no business taking her dog outside the house! Another client said she was so embarrassed by her dog's behavior that she only walked him late at night when there weren't other people around. I found all of their stories to be heartbreaking.
Even if a dog has been deemed dangerous as defined by the law, an owner still has the right in most states to take that dog outside of their home, as long as the dog is leashed and muzzled, so this notion that people whose dogs are reactive or aggressive shouldn't be out in public is a fallacy. Obviously, if your dog is aggressive toward people or other dogs, you should be using a muzzle when you walk them, even if you walk at off peak hours in off peak areas. Muzzle training is easy and a very effective way to prevent a bite. Basket muzzles can be worn comfortably for extended periods of time, allowing the dogs wearing them to still sniff, explore, drink water, take treats, and exercise.
Now, for dogs who are reactive and just need more space to feel comfortable in public spaces, we as their caretakers need to make that known. I know that there are flags you can add to your leash, as well as embroidered leashes that state that your dog needs space, however these are often ignored by people, particularly children. Better to adopt a strategy that helps your dog succeed by being proactive and moving out of the way when you need to, crossing the street, bringing your dog behind you or at your side, etc. And as much as you might like to be one of those dog owners who can walk down a busy sidewalk with your dog, don't be tempted to do it; just because you have the right to walk your dog in public, doesn't mean you should put her, yourself, and other dog owners in a precarious position. There are techniques that you can learn to help your reactive dog become more tolerant and even ignore other dogs, all you need to do is ask for help!
While dogs do need physical exercise, there is no hard and fast rule that says that has to come in the form of daily walks. You can use a flirt pole to exercise your dog, set up an agility course in your yard, or even in your house using furniture, or play a rousing game of fetch. Balance that physical exercise with mental exercise so that your dog truly feels "spent." Mental exercise can mean a bone or bullystick, but better still to offer an interactive puzzle toy or some other task for your dog to do independent of you. If you like dog training classes, your reactive dog still has options! You will need to think about something like nosework for her instead of a traditional group class. Nosework classes, by design, have each dog and handler working in the training space one at a time. In between sessions, dogs are crated or outside of the training area, allowing those whose dogs are reactive to remain at a safe distance, below their threshold.
One of those clients this weekend said she felt like she was walking around in her neighborhood with a scarlet "A" on her chest for her aggressive dog. I told her to start thinking of it as an "A" for awesome as she is making great strides in getting a solid handle on her dog's aggression, taking time to watch him and understand his triggers so that she can better manage his behavior. We're still muzzle training him as well, but he is doing quite well overall, as are the other handful of leash reactive dogs I'm working with right now.
Progress takes patience and consistency and a willingness to learn new techniques. I'm grateful to those clients who let me guide them on their journey. As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.






