Wednesday, October 26, 2022
The Power of Chicken!
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
Coaches, Cheerleaders, and Advocates!
I worked with a couple of different clients this week who told me I was better than any coach they'd ever had. I got such a kick out of this as I've never really thought of myself as a coach, per se. I'm more of a cheerleader, rooting my clients on to make the best of their relationships with their pets. And I'm definitely an animal advocate, educating people on the science behind the behavior, why animals behave the way they do, and how we can improve their lives. But a coach? How cool is that! It got me to thinking about what it takes to be an effective coach, and I realized that the most effective coaches I know provide solid guidance while also being cheerleaders and advocates for their students.
It's true; a lot of what I do is educate pet owners. Yes, I work with their pets directly, and I'm certainly hands on, where appropriate, but most of what I do is teaching people. These two clients loved that I gently guided them and then cheered them on as they gained confidence and made breakthroughs in working with their anxious pets. Here's the thing: I love cheering folks on. I love to see their faces light up when they get reinforced too. Maybe I should start carrying people treats in my pocket as well as those dog treats. You see, people need reinforcement just as much as their pets do. They need to know what they are doing is the right thing; that they are helping their animals become less anxious; that they are providing the best experiences and enrichment activities that will enhance their relationships with their pets.
Sure, there have been times when I've wanted to holler "ACK! You're doing it all wrong!" But that kind of response/reinforcement (punishment is reinforcement, after all, just not the kind any of us enjoy) isn't going to help my clients or their pets, though it might make me feel better in the moment. Pet owners come to me for guidance on serious behavior problems. Most of them have already beaten themselves up pretty bad over what is going on, feeling like they must have done something wrong to end up in this spot. A lot have even had friends and family tell them that they "screwed up." Not helpful, to say the least. No wonder these folks need a coach!
So, I'm going to continue to get excited when my clients use the techniques and tools I've given them. I'm going to continue to cheer them on in their pursuit of harmony in their home. And I'm definitely going to continue to use science and rock solid methodologies in the treatment of behavior problems so I can continue to advocate on behalf of those who have no voice, but rely on us to help them...our pets.
As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.
Wednesday, October 12, 2022
Choosing to Celebrate
Wednesday, October 5, 2022
When Time Isn't On Your Side
I met with a client over the weekend who is feeling quite desperate. She has two dogs, both with fairly significant behavior problems. She's been working with a dog trainer on and off for over 6 months, but she doesn't feel that they are making any headway, beyond basic obedience skills. She's feeling a lot of pressure to do something (maybe even return one of the dogs to the breeder) because she has family coming to stay in both November and December and her dogs aren't going to do well with new people in their home. Her veterinarian suggested working with me as the issues she's having aren't about obedience per se, but about anxiety.
Animals, just like people, experience anxiety. Some animals are more anxious than others, whether due to genetics, experience, or a combination of the two. Anxiety cannot be erased, but it can be managed, if you know what triggers your pet's anxiety and make changes to reduce or remove those triggers. Some of the pets I see have multiple triggers and experience anxiety even when home alone with their owners. For these pets, therapeutic intervention in the form of daily medication is often needed to control serotonin levels in their brains, promoting a more stabilized mood and thus less anxiety overall.
As you may have already guessed, treating anxiety in our pets isn't about short term solutions or quick fixes, but about making those long term changes that will result in a more content and stable animal as a result. Some of those changes may be difficult for the humans involved; some may even be impossible to do. You still need to consider those changes, however, in order to understand what it will take to keep that animal safe and improve their quality of life. Let me give you an example.
If your dog is anxious about meeting new people, hiding behind you perhaps, or maybe even blustering and barking and rearing up when approached by anyone he doesn't know, then it's up to you to control those encounters with new people, even minimizing them so that the fearful/anxious behavior doesn't get continually repeated and thus reinforced. If it's just occurring on walks, you can change when and where you walk, while working on strategies that increase your dog's confidence. If, however, that stranger anxiety occurs in your home when guests visit, then you will obviously have to make some significant changes in order to keep your dog safe and under threshold when you have visitors. If those visitors are coming next month and planning to stay at your house, then you may need to either ask those guests to stay elsewhere, board your dog (if possible), etc. What you don't want to do is "wing it," assuming that you can just put your dog in another room or crate him with the guests there. That might work as a short term solution for guests coming for a 3 hour party, but it most certainly isn't going to work, and will likely create more anxiety for your dog, if you try to do that while guests stay with you for a week.
Anxiety will take longer than a month to get a handle on. And it isn't going to go away just because your veterinarian prescribed Prozac for your dog. Prozac and other medications of that kind are supportive, not curative. Treating anxiety takes work and an understanding that there will be setbacks along the way. You have to remain compassionate (and retain your sense of humor) and be persistent in your pursuit of relief for your anxious dog. I find it helpful to give my clients an action list of things they can do right now, things they can do preemptively to help reduce anxiety in the future, and goals to work toward. That way, they have more realistic expectations for what it will take to help their pet going forward.
I do understand that treating a pet for anxiety isn't easy and that it can be frustrating. I cannot, however, make the process go any quicker for you and your pet. If it is the case that you simply cannot provide the time and care needed to treat your pet's anxiety, that's okay! This doesn't make you a failure, a horrible person, or selfish. It just means you aren't equipped to take on a pet with extra needs. The time to decide that, however, is not the week before you have guests coming to stay with you. Re-homing a pet, particularly one with anxiety, takes time to find a good match, that is one that won't cause your pet added stress and anxiety.
We humans can be so hard on each other, judging each other harshly, whether that's about our own coping abilities and handling of daily stressors, or that of our beloved pets. Until you've lived with, cared for, or yourself had to manage anxiety in a loved one (furred or otherwise), you really need to refrain from offering platitudes and quick fixes. Ask how you can help. That's what I do.
As always, if you have questions about your pet's behavior, you know where to find me.